In order to be successful, we must first define what success
means to us, and that means getting clear about what you
want, writing it down, and thinking big!
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of
your dreams, you have to believe that you are capable of
making it happen. You have to believe you have the right
stuff, that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself. Whether you call it self-
esteem, self-confidence, or self-assurance, it is a deep-
seated belief that you have what it takes – the abilities,
inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired
Ultimately, you must learn to control your self-talk,
eliminate any negative and limiting beliefs, and maintain a
constant state of positive expectations.
Control Your Self-Talk…
Researchers have found that the average person thinks as
many as 50,000 thoughts a day. Sadly, many of those thoughts
are negative – I’m not management material… I’ll never
lose weight… It doesn’t matter what I do, nothing ever
works out for me.
This is what psychologists call victim language. Victim
language actually keeps you in a victim state of mind. It is
a form of self-hypnosis that lulls you into a belief that
you are unlovable and incompetent.
In order to get what you want from life, you need to give up
this victim language and start talking to yourself like a
winner – I can do it… I know there is a solution… I am
smart enough and strong enough to figure this out…
Everything I eat helps me maintain my perfect body weight.
You Are Always Programming Your Subconscious Mind…
Your subconscious mind is like the crew of a ship. You are
it’s captain. It is your job to give the crew orders. And
when you do this, the crew takes everything you say
The crew (your subconscious) has no sense of humor. It just
blindly follows orders. When you say, “Everything I eat goes
straight to my hips,” the crew hears that as an order: Take
everything she eats, turn it into fat and put it on her
On the other hand, if you say, “Everything I eat helps me
maintain my perfect body weight,” the crew will begin to
make that into reality by helping you make better food
choices, exercise, and maintain the right metabolism rate
for you body.
This power of your subconscious mind is the reason you must
become very vigilant and pay careful attention to your
spoken and internal statements.
Unfortunately, most people don’t realize they are committing
negative self-talk, which is why it is best to enlist
another person – your success partner – in monitoring each
other’s speaking. You can have a signal for interrupting
each other when you use victim language.
Use Affirmations to Build Self-Confidence…
One of the most powerful tools for building worthiness and
self-confidence is the repetition of positive statements
until they become a natural part of the way you think.
These “affirmations” act to crowd out and replace the
negative orders you have been sending your crew (your
subconscious mind) all these years. I suggest that you
create a list of 10 to 20 statements that affirm your belief
in your worthiness and your ability to create the life of
Of course, what to believe is up to you, but here are some
examples of affirmations that have worked for others in the
* I am worthy of love, joy and success.
* I am smart and make wise choices.
* I am loveable and capable.
* I create anything I want.
* I am able to solve any problem that comes my way.
* I can handle anything that life hands me.
* I have all the energy I need to do everything I want to
* I am attracting all the right people into my life.
Believing in Yourself is an Attitude…
Believing in yourself is a choice. It’s an attitude you
develop over time. It’s now your responsibility to take
charge of your own self-concept and your beliefs.
It might help to know that the latest brain research now
indicates that with enough positive self-talk and positive
visualization combined with the proper training, coaching,
and practice, anyone can learn to do almost anything.
You must choose to believe that you can do anything you set
your mind to – anything at all – because, in fact, you can!
by Jack Canfield