Often times we have a goal or a desire, but we think that we
lack the skills or training necessary to accomplish it.
Not long ago I was speaking with a woman who was struggling
with just such a situation in her life.
She wanted to write a book. As we talked it was apparent to
me that she not only had the idea, she had the entire thing
plotted out in her mind.
I asked her why she hadn’t already written it.
“Because I’m not a writer. I don’t have the training
necessary to do it. I don’t know how to put my thoughts down
on paper so that they flow like they do in my mind.”
I could certainly understand that. So I asked, “why do you
think you have to be able to “write” to complete your book?”
She was naturally puzzled. Seriously, I said, it’s obvious
that you have the main ingredients all set. You just have to
figure out the best way to make it happen.
Here’s what I suggest. First, let go of the areas that
you’re lacking in. Focus on what you have going for you. In
your case, you’ve got the entire thing in your mind. That’s
Secondly, let go of the part of your thinking that says
there’s a “right way” to do something. What matters in the
case of the goal you’ve set is the final outcome. Having
your book completed. So what do you care how you accomplish
So here’s an idea — get a tape recorder or digital
recorder. Speak your entire book into it. If you feel more
comfortable speaking parts of it into the recorder do that.
Once you have that done, have it transcribed. It’s actually
not that expensive.
Alternatively, you could look for a writer or a journalism
student who you could pay to help get your ideas written
down in a readable format. The important thing isn’t the
specific approach you choose. What matters is that you take
real action on your idea.
I could see her eyes light up. “It seems so obvious now, I
never considered that I didn’t have to spend the grueling
hours I was sure it would take to write it myself”, she
Isn’t that interesting? All it took to help this woman get
unstuck was to introduce to her that there was more than one
way to do what she wanted to accomplish.
You see, all too often we focus on the areas where we are
lacking — where we need improvement — whereas we would be
that much farther along if we would simply work within the
skills we have already developed (and be willing to learn
new ones along the way). There’s a lot to be said about
thinking outside the box.
And so it is with whatever dream you hold for yourself.
Whatever it is that you want to achieve — you have to know
deep down that even though the solution may not be obvious
the key to your achieving it is within you.
It’s your life, LIVE BIG!