Over the past several years I have experienced my fair share of success. However, it has not been without its fair share of obstacles and setbacks. I was reflecting upon this recently as I confronted a recent disappointment. Hundreds of emotions raced through my mind as the reality set in that my deepest plans and desires were not going to reach my goals.
To say that I was frustrated would truly be an understatement. A few days earlier I could taste victory and knew that my visions would soon be manifested. As the reality set in that my goal was not to be, I experienced all of the feelings that accompany disappointment and confusion.
So close. Yet so far.
Over the years I have learned that there is one powerful question that we can ask ourselves when life does not go as planned. Unfortunately, most people would rather complain than apply this simple process. It was so tempting to make excuses and feel sorry for myself. Or to justify the experience and try and convince myself that this was not really that important.
Eventually I came to my senses and this question worked its magic as it always does.
While losers wallow in defeat and communicate and perpetuate self defeating behaviors, winners ask themselves “what is it that I can learn from that experience?” That question turns my focus around in a heartbeat and before I know it I can see numerous solutions that will assist me in my endeavor.
I suggest that you carry a pen and notebook along with you after you ask yourself this question. You will be amazed at how empowering this simple exercise is. The only failure in life is not learning anything from your experience. Success is inevitable for those who confront setbacks and disappointments with this simplicity.