Dealing with adversity and challenge
Long before I started speaking, writing and coaching on
personal development topics I was a student. In fact I’m
still very much a student first.
During my studies, as you might imagine I’ve learned a lot
of ideas — some I’ve found applicable and have implemented
in my life, and some, as I’ve progressed in my own personal
development journey no longer fit quite like they once did.
If you think about it, that makes sense — we are always
growing after all.
Throughout my years of study and application in the field of
personal development, one idea always seems to ring true. In
fact, it has played such an important part in my own life’s
journey that I feel compelled to share it with you here now.
Ready? here goes…
You can’t always control what happens to you, but you can
always control how you react to what happens to you.
Did you get that? Please read that again as it’s that
important. Even better, grab a 3×5 index card (or your
journal) and write it down.
In life, any number of things can happen — good or bad. As
someone far brighter than I once said, “the only constant is
Before I continue let me say that the point of my writing
here is not to get into a discussion on the line of thinking
that says that we are attracting into our life each and
every negative event — be it disease, the death of a loved
one, or insert whatever devastating thing you can think of
– that happens to us (either consciously or on a
subconscious level). That’s not my point here. Besides,
there are no shortage of experts who have addressed that
particular line of thinking elsewhere 🙂
What I am saying, is that no matter what may have happened
to us, whether it was someone taking advantage of us, a
shift in the economy that led to being downsized, or
virtually any other situation you choose to apply to this,
the simple truth remains — how we choose to react to it is
well within our control.
That is not to say that it’s always going to be easy,
sometimes it means accepting things we have a hard time
accepting, and taking corrective measures that are anything
However, the powerful thing about acknowledging this truth
is that in doing so we come to realize that we are able to
get over simply accepting the role of victim — the part
that says, this happened to me — this is why I’m this way,
and as a result I can’t do anything to change where I am.
Instead we are able to move to a more empowering position
of, this happened, but by taking action I can change my
particular situation for the better.
Through fully embracing the belief that you have control
over how you react to what occurs in your life you unleash
your personal greatness. You no longer have to accept that
you are at the mercy of whatever may come your way, but
rather that you can take an active role in defining, and in
turn get on with living your perfect life.
While it is true that it isn’t always easy to fully embrace
and accept this truth day in and day out — it is imperative
that you do make the effort to do so just the same.
Fortunately, in most cases it is as easy as being aware of
it — even if at first you notice you have resistance to it
– by keeping the idea in mind, in time you will come to
accept it as well as benefit from all that goes along with
viewing challenges and adversity in this light.
Inside this simple, yet profound thought is exactly what is
needed in most cases to move you from a place where you feel
stuck or out of control to a place where you realize that by
applying action — and acquiring new skills, whatever you
identify that is needed to learn — you can in fact take an
active step towards changing your place for the better.
If you find yourself in a place in your own life where all
is going well, then all the better. The idea will only make
more concrete the reality that you have all you need to
achieve your goals and dreams.
Keep clearly in mind that great personal power comes from
knowing that come what may, for better or worse you can play
an active role in shaping — and in turn living the life you
were meant to live.
It’s your life, LIVE BIG! Josh Hinds 🙂