Would you like to enjoy more success and have less stress in
your life? Do you wish that your daily aggravations had less
power over you? Would you appreciate some peace of mind?
No, you don’t need to find a genie in a bottle to enjoy
these spectacular benefits. What you do need, however, is a
belief in one key concept — that everything happens for a
When I began speaking before groups more than ten years ago,
I often asked the members of my audience, “How many of you
believe that everything happens for a reason?” Typically,
about 25% of the people would raise their hands. Now, when I
ask that same question, anywhere from 50% to 80% of the
audience answers in the affirmative.
Whether you already believe that things happen for a
purpose, or are unsure about this notion, here are some
points to consider to get the maximum results from this
1. Don’t curse your present circumstances… or gripe about
the past. When we encounter “negative” or stressful
situations in our lives, our immediate reaction is to be
outraged, frustrated or depressed. This is the start of a
downward spiral in which we fill our minds with gloomy
thoughts and generate more negative results.
On the contrary, when you believe there’s a purpose for your
difficulties, your state of mind is quite different. You
realize that your current situation is serving you in some
way, whether it’s a turn in the road or a lesson that you
can apply at a later date.
2. This principle is not limited to tragedies and problems.
While it’s true that you can find positive aspects to every
setback, the idea that everything happens for a reason
applies to positive experiences and “neutral” events as
For instance, let’s say that you meet someone at a
networking meeting. The person holds no special significance
to you and doesn’t seem likely to bring you any business.
What you’re not considering are the possible ways that the
two of you might help each other in the future.
3. Being passive is not the answer. Just because there is a
“reason” for the events that happen to you doesn’t mean you
can achieve your goals by sitting back and waiting for
success to occur on its own. It’s still up to you to be
proactive and make things happen. That requires energy,
creativity and, yes, a lot of effort on your part!
4. Recognize the “two way street.” It’s easy to get caught
up with the idea that every person you meet has something to
contribute to you. That’s true to some extent. But, don’t
overlook the fact that there is something for you to impart
to others as well!
And, while there are often ways in which each party
contributes to the other, there are many instances where
it’s not an equal “give and take.” Thus, there are times in
a relationship when you may be serving another person more
often than you are receiving from them.
5. You are always being directed toward something “better.”
Have you ever been fired from a job … then moved on to
find a better career? Or, have you terminated a personal
relationship (or been terminated yourself!) … and then met
someone who was a far better partner for you?
In both of these instances, life was pushing you toward
something that would bring you even more satisfaction. Of
course, in all of these situations, you had the option to
close off the improved alternative.
For instance, after being fired, you could have complained
about the lack of job opportunities. Or, after the
relationship ended, you could have concluded that you are
“unlucky in love.” Yet, had you taken these approaches, you
would have missed the better situation that was just around
6. You’ll never be able to explain everything. The notion
that “everything happens for a reason” will not answer every
question that you have about life! On the contrary, although
you’ll find that you are better able to understand certain
events, there will still be many mysteries that you can’t
There are no coincidences. When you believe this, you’ll
enter a new world of possibility. When a problem occurs,
instead of crying, “Why Me?” you’ll look for the lesson you
can learn, or the opportunity that is on the horizon.
You’ll realize that it makes no sense to argue that
something shouldn’t have happened to you. It did happen…
there’s a reason for it… and, if you’re wise, you’ll use
it to your advantage!
– Jeff Keller