Brian Dyson, CEO of Coca Cola Enterprises, included the following comments in a university commencement address he delivered several years ago on the relationship of work to one’s other commitments in life. He suggests we all have five ‘`blue chip” items to manage along with some suggestions on how to do so. Image life as a game in which you juggle in the air five balls named work, family, health, friends, and spirit. As you endeavor to keep them all in the air, you will soon realize that work is a rubber ball, and if you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls, however, family, health, friends, and spirit are made of glass. Drop one of them, and the ball is irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged, or even shattered, never to be the same. You must understand this fact, and strive for balance in your life. How?
1. Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. it is because we are different that each of us is special.
2. Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.
3. Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them life is meaningless.
4. Don’t let life slip through your fingers by living in the past, or living for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live ALL the days of your life.
5. Don’t give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
6. Don/t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us to each other.
7. Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
8. Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible to find time. The quickest way to receive love is to give it; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tight; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.
9. Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you’ve been, but also where you’re going.
10. Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
11. Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.
12. Don’t use tirne, or words, carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Life is not a race; rather, it is a journey to be savored each step of the way.
By Tom Hopkins
The average human being has the ability to achieve almost anything. Lack of basic capability is rarely the problem, but rather finding our what you want and being willing to sacrifice, change, and grow to satisfy the want.
In the sales training seminars I conduct throughout the country, I teach a 20-step system of goal setting to help people achieve and I firmly believe it can be applied to all walks of life.
Here it is:
1. If it’s not in writing, it’s not a goal. An unwritten want is a wish, a dream, a never-happen. If it’s in writing, it’s a commitment.
2. If it’s not specific, it’s not a goal. Broad desires and lofty aims have no effect. It must be concrete.
3. Goals must be believable. If you don’t believe you can achieve a goal, you won’t pay the price for it.
4. An effective goal is an exciting challenge. It must demand your best and a bit more or it isn’t going to change your ways and elevate your lifestyle.
5. Goals must be adjusted to new information. Adjust them down if they become unbelievable or up if they’re too easy.
6. Dynamic goals guide our choices. If you want it badly enough, you’ll turn off the TV and get to it. Goals will show you the right way to go on most decisions.
7. Don’t set short-term goals for more than 90 days. If you set a short-term goal that takes more than 90 days, you may lose interest.
8. Maintain a balance between long-term and short-term goals. Long-term goals tend to be hidden in a fog of the future, so have some short-term goals … like clothes, cars, vacations – to keep your excitement up.
9. Include your loved ones in your goals. Involve them and they’ll buck you up when you need encouragement.
10. Set goals in all areas of your life. Have other goals besides career objectives.
11. Your goals must harmonize. Whenever you detect a conflict, set priorities that will eliminate the conflict.
12. Review your goals regularly. Remember, long-term goals can only be achieved if they are the culmination of short- term goals.
13. Set vivid goals. Define not only what you want but by when you want it, and concentrate on it for a few moments every day.
14. Don’t chisel your goals in granite. Sometimes you have to change goals to conform to your growing awareness of what’s really important in your life.
15. Reach out into the future. The idea of goal setting is to plan your life rather than taking it as it comes. Begin by setting 20-year goals. Then 10-year, five-year, 30-month, 12-month, monthly, weekly, and finally goals for tomorrow and each day for the coming week.
16. Have a set of goals for every day, and review results each night.
17. Train yourself to crave your goals. Visualize yourself possessing what you’ve set your goals for.
18. Set activity goals, not production goals. Activity will lead to production by itself.
19. Understand luck, and make it work for you. Expect good things to happen, and they probably will.
20. Start now. Give goal-setting two hours of concentrated focus through today. Then set aside 10 minutes a day for the next 21 days to review and revise. After that, two minutes a day and one hour a week is all it will take to keep you on track.
Try this system if you want to achieve your goals and within 21 days you’ll be well on your way to an immensely greater and richer future
Positivity is a mindset; it is a mental attitude that is at the core of one’s thoughts, words, images and behaviors. When we are positive we want those things mentioned above that will promote growth, expansion and success in those things we want to get out of life. Likewise, a negative mindset can block us from getting those positive results we want in our lives. When a person has a positive mindset then they settle for no less than happiness, joy, health, love and success every time they set out to do something.
The main thing that prevents people from being positive in their lives is they do not believe that it makes a difference. Not everyone is open to the idea of the power of positive thoughts. In fact, a lot of people find it to be silly or nonsensical. This is especially true of people who are going through very hard times in their lives. We have all been told at some time in our lives to think positive. But what does that actually mean? It means that our thoughts always see us in a successful outcome regardless of what is happening in our lives and in spite of the odds stacked against our success. This is when positivity is put to the test as to whether it works or not.
Thoughts are contagious whether positive or negative. This means we affect each other by how we think. We tend to gravitate towards those that think like we do. Thus the adage, like-minds comes into play. So, if you think negative, you will gravitate to other negative thinking people. If you are positive, you are going to want to surround yourselves with those with like-thoughts and minds. In fact, most people try and avoid those who don’t think like they do.
When a person is negative, their thoughts manifest negative words, attitudes, behaviors and conduct. To change a negative mindset, to one that is positive, takes a little work then since it is a frame-of- mind that guides one’s conscious behaviors. It is a fact that negative thoughts and patterns do not change over night. It took a while for a person to become negative. No one is born that way and it takes a while to change a negative mindset to a positive one as well.
One of the suggestions in changing a negative mindset to a positive one is to start to re-program your thoughts. This is done by consciously replacing a negative thought with a positive one when it enters your mind. As often as a negative thought enters is how frequently it is replaced. This teaches you to eventually ignore all negative thoughts all together and only focus on positive ones. This doesn’t mean to live in a fantasy of positivity. What it does is, when a problem arises because of a mindset, you find a positive solution to it instead of letting the negativity consume your thoughts.