Change

by Denis Waitley

You can change your life by changing you habits. Here are some guidepost rules regarding change:

Rule 1: No one can change you and you can’t really change anyone else. You must admit your need, stop denying your problem, and accept responsibility for changing yourself

Rule 2: Habits aren’t broken, but replaced — by layering new behavior patterns on top of the old ones. This usually takes a least a year or two. Forget the 30-day wonder ones. I don’t know where motivational speakers got the idea that it takes twenty-one days to gain a new habit. It may take that long to remember the motions of a new skill, but after many years of being you, it takes far longer to settle into a new habit pattern and stay there. Habits are like submarines. They run silent and deep. They also are like comfortable beds, in that they’re easy to get into, but difficult to get out of. So don’t expect immediate, amazing results. Give your skills’ training a year and stick with it, knowing that your new ways can last a lifetime.

Rule 3: A daily routine adhered to over time will become second nature, riding a bicycle. Negative behavior leads to a losing lifestyle, positive behavior to a wining lifestyle. Practice make permanent in both cases.

Excerpted from “The Seeds of Greatness Treasury.”

The Power of Your Beliefs

by Lisa Jimenez, M.Ed.

Your beliefs are the driving force behind your behaviors. Beliefs send powerful messages to your brain that affect your actions (and their outcome) in either a positive or negative way. Your beliefs will cause you to do one of two things:

Be fearful and RETREAT, or
Be empowered and ACT!

That’s how powerful your beliefs are. Your beliefs about failure, risk-taking, and success will either cause you to repel success, or act and attract it to you. Success takes two ingredients: belief and time. The more belief you have, the less time it takes. How can you ensure your belief system is empowering and is actually attracting success to you? Three things:

First, it is imperative that you are making daily efforts to get the negative messages out of your life. You need to create an obsession with filtering what you allow in. Television, newspapers, some movies and songs, negative thoughts and people, all need to be limited – even banned from your day.

Second, you need to expose and replace the negative beliefs you presently have. Think about what you say on a daily basis. Observe your habitual behaviors in different situations. Tell the truth. Expose these negative beliefs. Only then will you be truly free. Then, replace these negative beliefs and bad habits with empowering ones. Think on these new thoughts and beliefs about success and over time you will retrain your mind and change your heart.

Lastly, create a compelling vision of your success. Craft a picture of you – as the person you want to be – in your mind and THINK ON THIS throughout your day. Not only with this vision put a smile on your face, this habit will actually create success.

Change Your Beliefs and You Change Your BehaviorRemember middle school science class? You learned the difference between potential energy and kinetic energy. Potential energy is energy waiting to happen. Not until it’s moving and active will you see it in its kinetic energy state. When it’s in the kinetic state it is a reality. Wow! That means you can create reality (the kinetic energy) with your thoughts and beliefs (potential energy). Never underestimate the power of your beliefs!

Change Your Behavior and You Change Your Life!

When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator,
and I wanted to paint another one.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw you feed a stray cat,
and I thought it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw you make my favorite cake for me,
and I knew that little things are special things.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I heard you say a prayer,
and I believed there is a God I could always talk to.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I felt you kiss me good night,
and I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw tears come from your eyes,
and I learned that sometimes things hurt,
but it’s all right to cry.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw that you cared and I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I looked … and wanted to say thanks
for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn’t looking.

Obstacles are the Stepping Stones of Success

by Harvey Mackay

A man was walking in the park one day when he came upon a cocoon with a small opening. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through the little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It looked like it had gotten as far as it could, so the man decided to help the butterfly. He used his pocketknife and snipped the remaining bit of the cocoon.

The butterfly then emerged easily, but something was strange. The butterfly had a swollen body and shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected at any moment the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened. In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and deformed wings. It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to emerge was natural. It was nature’s way of forcing fluid from its body into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom. Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives.

If we were allowed to go through life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. And we could never fly.

History has shown us that the most celebrated winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.

Thomas Edison tried over 2,000 experiments before he was able to get his light bulb to work. Upon being asked how he felt about failing so many times, he replied, “I never failed once. I invented the light bulb. It just happened to be a 2,000-step process.”

Persistence paid off for General Douglas MacArthur. After applying for admission to West Point twice, he applied a third time and was accepted. The rest is history.

Helen Keller, the famous blind author and speaker, said: “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved. Silver is purified in fire and so are we. It is in the most trying times that our real character is shaped and revealed.”

One of Life’s Great Lessons – Learn to be Thankful for What You Already Have

by Jim Rohn

Is thankfulness a survival skill? Perhaps most of you would respond with, “No, Jim, thankfulness is not key to survival,” and I would tend to agree with you. Most of us have probably already solved the necessary problems of survival, gone beyond that and are now working to achieve our desires. But let me give you this key phrase, “Learn to be thankful for what you already have, while you pursue all that you want.” I believe one of the greatest and perhaps one of the simplest lessons in life we can learn is to be thankful for what we have already received and accomplished.

Both the years and the experiences have brought me here to where I stand today, but it is the thankfulness that opened the windows of opportunities, of blessings, of unique experiences to flow my way.

My gratitude starts with my parents who raised me, gave me an incredible foundation that has lasted me all of these years and continues with the mentors that I’ve met along the way who absolutely changed and revolutionized my life, my income, my bank account, my future. I am also very thankful for the people, the associations, for the ideas, for the chance to work and labor, and to produce results, all of that has brought me to this place, to this weekend. I’m grateful for it all.

What a unique opportunity each one of you here has, so many of us; representing different countries, nations and cultures, to appreciate the uniqueness of our own experiences that has brought us all here, together, for these three days to learn new skills and sharpen old ones. For the countries we represent; we have freedom and liberty. These are extraordinary times, about eleven years ago the walls came tumbling down, in Germany, and it started a wave of democracy and freedom like the world has never seen before. We as a country and as a world have so much to be thankful for. Always start with thanksgiving; be thankful for what you already have and see the miracles that come from this one simple act.

Now thankfulness is just the beginning; next, you’ve got to challenge yourself to produce. Produce more ideas than you need for yourself so you can share and give your ideas away. That is called fruitfulness and abundance. Here’s what I think fruitfulness and abundance mean – to go to work on producing more than you need for yourself so you can begin blessing others, blessing your nation and blessing your enterprise. Once abundance starts to come, once someone becomes incredibly productive, it’s amazing what the numbers turn out to be. But to begin this incredible process of blessing, it often starts with the act of thanksgiving and gratitude, being thankful for what you already have and for what you’ve already done. Begin the act of thanksgiving today and watch the miracles flow your way.

Be Present! Seven Ways to Be More Productive and Enjoy Life More

Each day and each moment of each day is a gift that we all
have been given. When you stop to think about it you know
this is true.

But it is an easy fact to forget when you open your email,
look at your to-do list or see a steady stream of people
asking you for help or to get something done… now. The
world conspires to keep us moving faster and to multi-task
at every turn.

Unfortunately most of the time when we are moving at that
frenetic pace we aren’t at peak efficiency or effectiveness.
We know this too, but too often we don’t act on that
knowledge. What we need to remember is the value of right
now.

And right now…

and right now.

The value of the present moment. When we stop multi-tasking
and live remembering and valuing the present moment we will
paradoxically get more done. We will have better
relationships, we will learn more that we can apply in the
future and we will enjoy ourselves more each day.

To get to these benefits we must get past the pace and
seemingly the expectations of the world around us. We must
find ways to slow down enough to be present in each moment.
The rest of this article offers seven ways to be present so
you can reap the great benefits of doing so.

Be grateful for the “present.” Let’s put first things first.
If you want to be more present in every conversation and
situation, you must be grateful for that moment.

Even if you don’t like the situation, when you are grateful
for the opportunity you are better able to stay mentally in
the moment rather than thinking about what you will do
“next.”

Note: Granted, this first piece of advice is a bit
philosophical and doesn’t provide you with a specific
strategy or tactic, but this philosophy will drive your
ability and willingness to do all of tactics that follow.
Read on for the specific actions you can take.

Take a deep breath. When you find your mind wandering beyond
the current situation, start by taking a deep breath. This
breath can serve as a reminder to help you refocus and to
center you as well.

Focus on the present moment exclusively. Do one thing – just
one thing – at a time. The crux of remaining in the present
is to focus on the task, person, situation or whatever is in
your current moment.

If you are thinking about what you are going to say next,
what you are going to do next, or what you are going to have
for dinner you aren’t focused on right now.

Reduce the noise. Turn off the iPod, the radio or the
television unless that is your current moment focus. The
noise and distractions around us can easily pull us away
from the current moment, divert our focus and reduce our
effectiveness.

Refocus your inner voice. When you notice yourself judging,
analyzing or having another sort of mental dialogue in the
current moment, shift your mental focus by saying to
yourself, “now, now, now” or some other phrase that will
help you bring yourself back to the current moment,
situation or activity.

Be more observant. Pay closer attention to the present
moment! Notice what your senses are noticing, but what you
may be unconsciously tuning out. What is the real message
under the words you are hearing? What do you smell, what can
you taste? What do you hear (in addition to the words)?

When you open yourself up to be more observant you give your
brain something to think about that is relevant and helpful
in the present situation, rather thinking about another
time, place or activity.

Ask “What do I want to remember about this moment in time?”
I once read the advice that when you are on vacation at a
place you truly value, that you should take an omni-sensory,
three-dimensional picture of everything about that place and
time in your mind. Taking this “picture” helps you savor the
moment in the present and helps you remember it forever.

This advice combines the concepts of being grateful and
being observant. I believe this approach can be used
anytime, as a way to capture a moment for memory, for future
reflection and more. You can stimulate this activity by
asking, what do I want to remember about right now? Or a
similar question that works best for you.

These activities will make a difference in your results -
both personal and professional. The benefits mentioned at
the start of this article will all be yours as you perfect
the habit of being in the present moment.

by Kevin Eikenberry